Giving Moms High Fives
From our own experiences and from talking to so many other mothers in the community we have come to the conclusion that part of the reason moms don’t believe they should be appreciated is because they chose to have kids and they are selfless and it seems like they have a sense of pride. The Mother Badge of Courage. But the other part of this story fascinated us.
In this life we are expected to wear a million hats but the problem is there is no possible way we can be good at each of them. And there is no way we can accomplish everything we need to in a day, a week and a year. So all the hats we don’t wear well and all the things we don’t get done eat at us and it effects our self esteem and how we function and parent. We have limitations and imperfections as do our children – be it financial, emotional, and/or physical. So at the end of the day with all that pressure we tend to look at all the thing we have not accomplished and not all the things we did in a day and we wind up not feeling worthy of being celebrated.
“Why am I going to pat myself on the back when the laundry is scattered over the house and the load in the washer smells like mildew because I forgot to put it in the dryer and the dishes are piled up as well as the bills?”
“Why am I going to give my self credit when I forgot to pick up the milk at the market and I lost my patience and was grumpy and yelled at my kids all day?”
“Why am I deserving of a break when I have to clean out my closet, car, junk drawers, make baby albums from 10 years ago and the floors need to be mopped?”
We can’t stop time to catch up… and when and if we ever do we get curve balls thrown at us… and sometimes we get sucker punched. So no matter how much we try to control with routine and balance, life is unpredictable so all we can do is our best.
This is what Mom The Day is about. We celebrate moms because we know they need it. We give unconditional love. We give kindness. We give empathy. We give high fives, smiles and a lift because that is what we desperately need to get through our own day and want to share that gift with others.
~ Juli Schneiderman